One of the most important steps toward creating self-compassion and building a happier life, is to get over the negative thoughts we all have. These negative thoughts say things like:
You're too fat
Nobody likes you
You are a total screw up
Everyone has these. Part of learning to live with self-compassion is learning to deal with negative thoughts.
There are three main fields of thought in psychology about negative thoughts. All of them are valid, and in sessions, I work with clients to choose the approach that fits best for them. My new favorite podcast, Invisibilia, covered these three perspectives really well in a recent episode. You can listen to it here.
Read through them and try them the next time negative thoughts pay you a visit.
Old- School Freudian
This school of thought says your thoughts are related to some experience in your life and are important or meaningful. This school of thought believes your thoughts are something to learn from. If you take them at face value you might be able to learn something about yourself.